So there is a lady out there who has been facing an emotional issue only she can rightly take decision on. But here she wants us to advise her on what to do. Will she take our advice? Again,this is another decision she can make all by herself. But we are here to give relationship advice,look at some critical relationship issues that could endanger relationships,listen to complaints and try to proffer solutions to them. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I have nothing or the man who makes my dream come true?
Wow! This is a very interesting question! She has two men currently in her life but she does not know who to choose for a husband. One of the two men had been with her for a long time and he is the former,but the latter recently came into her and changed her life completely.
What would you advise this young woman in a cross road of love do now? Should she go for the lover who had stood by her when she had nothing or leave him for the man who made her dream come true?
From what is seen here,both men are lovers of this young,talented woman. When she had nothing,the former man stood by her ( like he depends on her for a living) praying and hoping that soon things would turn around for good. The latter lover came to the young woman’s life,saw she had a need to meet to be happy in life and helped her meet the need. Now she is made and happy once again. But she is confused,not knowing who to give her life to. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I had nothing or the man who makes my dream come true?
My dear young lady,from your description of your first lover,it looks like you are the breadwinner,always on the forefront to make both ends meet for both of you. When you had nothing,he had nothing as well. And it also seems to me that he made no much effort to realize capital and make your dream come or probably he tried but not enough to make it happen. What do you what? Do you want to have a man in your life whom you will always fend for and and become his breadwinner?
The latter man saw you and you gave him the chance to come into your life even when you already had a lover. Why? Is it because you knew he could help you actualize your dream and what to take advantage of his money or is there anything else? I’m sure that man truly loves you otherwise,he wouldn’t have spent so much on you to make you a better person you are today. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I had nothing or the man who makes my dream come true?
Again the answer lies in your hands! What does your mind tell you is a better person for you? But hey,one choice here is better than the other. If you go for the former who virtually does nothing much reasonable for a living,a man who could contribute nothing in your career success, in what way will he be of any support for you in the future? If he comes into your life real time in marriage with you will you not have made him reap on what another man has sown? That wouldn’t be fair at all. Try to be in his shoes and see if that pleases you as well.
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Maybe you are afraid of what people might say. ”She left her lover because he has nothing for another man because of his money” and all of that. Did you really go for the latter because of his money or because your happiness in making your dreams come true is paramount important to him?
But this is the real man! A man who would be at his best to make his woman happy and above all be successful in her chosen career. This is the kind of man every reasonable woman should go for rather than stupidly dying in love for no gains,for nothing!
A man of great insight and hard work is a leader and the only legible man for any kind of woman for marriage!
The good and only inspired book the Bible says ” Husband,love your wife as Christ loves the congregation and delivers up for it…And you wife,have deep respect for your husband.” Tell me woman,how can you respect a husband who cannot deliver?
You see,that is the simple principle of headship and submissiveness in marriage. A husband must really work hard to care for the needs of his woman ( that is love) and this is where he gains the respect from her which includes submissiveness.
Another truth is that it is not possible that a man loves a woman he does not care for. Love entails care and responsibility. When a man does not do these things,he naturally begins to feel less of a man in himself and abuses everything and everyone around him. How on earth for heaven sake can any woman respect any man without value? Oh…it doesn’t really happen! And it is not genuine if it in anyways exists. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I ha nothing or the man who makes my dream come true? Choose for yourself!!!